My Beautiful Boy

It has been a month or so now since Corey started seeing Julie a child therapist.  She is really good with him and has probably got the best relationship with him than we’ve had with previous psychologists and psychiatrists.  Corey is at least attending the sessions and talking to her – more than he did with the others.

Although we haven’t had any changes in Corey’s behaviour yet, she is delving into his thoughts and trying to see how he thinks, which no-one has ever done before.

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Last week we had a reasonably good week with Corey or at least about as good as you can get with Coreys behavior issues.  He wanted a sleepover on Friday night so he was trying hard to be good so he could have the sleepover which he did have.  All day Saturday he was reasonably well behaved too.  Until…….

Saturday night we decided to go and get Chinese for dinner.  The change in Corey was incredible.  We’ve never been able to pinpoint any exact food that seems to set Corey off until now.  It’s possible that he’d been good for a week so was due for a bad change anyway, so perhaps it may have happened and it wasn’t the food, but it is strange that the timing of it was just after he’d eaten Chinese for dinner.

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This morning Corey and I had our first visit with the CAMHS therapist Julie.  CAMHS stands for Child & Adolescent Mental Health Service and Julie is a School Support Therapist.

I wasn’t sure how this visit was going to go but I am really happy now after the visit, it went really well.  Julie was really good with Corey and he did open up a bit and talk to her.  Being our first visit we went in together but in the future she will want sessions with just Corey, maybe some with just me and some with both of us.

Corey seemed to relate to her quite well which is a huge thing when it comes to therapists because if he takes a disliking to them he will just refuse to speak to them EVER.  But he seemed to like her so that is off to a good start.

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This afternoon I am attending a parenting course called ‘Who’s In Charge’.  Coreys school is running this course which goes for five weeks and is aimed for parents that have children that are violent.

I was quite happy when I saw they were offering this course and had my name down for it straight away.  Today is the first session so it will be interesting to see what they offer or suggest or if this course can help at all.  It would be good if Derek had been able to go to it also as it can be quite difficult if I decide to change things around here and he doesn’t change also.  We need to be in agreeance (is that a word) with our parenting methods and that bit can be quite frustrating.

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Corey has had a bad back for the last three weeks or so and last Friday wouldn’t go to school because his back was sore.  He has started playing football (Aussie Rules) and basketball so I don’t know if he’s done something while playing footy or basketball.  So on Friday I took him to a chiropractor and although his back still hurt for the rest of the day, it seems to have been ok ever since.

On Sunday they have their football game and during the game Corey got tackled and thrown to the ground and he hit his head on the ground.  So on Monday he didn’t want to go to school because he had a headache.  I don’t know how much of it was real and how much of it was him just not wanting to go to school, but I let him stay home anyway.  Lachlan is also  home this week sick with a sore throat and cold which doesn’t help trying to get Corey to go to school when another one is home.

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Last time I mentioned Mindsoothe Jr I hadn’t really seen any improvements and it was still a bit early to know if it was helping at all.  Then after Corey was taking Mindsoothe Jr for about three weeks I started to wonder if it was helping.  We were still having a lot of problems with him, there was no doubt about that, but I felt that he just wasn’t quite as aggressive as usual.

So there wasn’t a huge change, but it just seemed to take the edge of his anger, but because there wasn’t a huge change I just wasn’t sure if it was helping or not.

Then, I did my usual and started getting a bit slack with giving it to him and although he was pretty good and would often ask me if he should take it, he soon started forgetting also and before we knew it he was no longer taking it.

Now, a couple of weeks on and he hasn’t taken the mindsoothe jr for a couple of weeks I am noticing changes.  It is now that he’s stopped taking it that I know for sure that it was helping, that it was definitely taking the edge of his anger.  Now that he’s stopped taking it he is really bad again and quite aggressive and there is just no getting through to him. Read the rest of this entry »

The boys returned to school today after 2 weeks holidays except for Corey who has his 3 day suspension beginning today.  He’s not very impressed when I told him that he was not allowed to just sit home and watch TV or play games.  I gave him a list that included some chores and some school work and told him he could choose to do them in whatever order he wished, but they must be done.

He is allowed breaks at the usual time that he would at school – recess and lunch, but other than that he is doing the things on the list I gave him.  He wasn’t too impressed but after much arguing and yelling and throwing things, realised that I wasn’t going to back down and started doing them.

I haven’t had much of a chance to read the ‘out of control teen’ ebook, I am probably about half way through it.  It sounds quite good and the thing I like about it is that it is done over a period of 4 weeks, so rather than read a book and then just find that you are suffering from information overload and just don’t know where to start, this one is done as a course over 4 weeks which should make each strategy easier to follow. Read the rest of this entry »

Sorry I haven’t posted much lately but I’ve just had so many problems with Corey that everything I write will just be negative so I haven’t bothered.

We are getting really desperate!

Coreys violence has gotten out of control, I can’t even leave him in a room with my other children anymore because I can’t trust him not to hurt them.

Yesterday he punched his 7 year old brother in the head and then the mouth because he wasn’t ‘playing the game right’.  The night before he had a friend sleep over and I ended up ringing his Mum to tell her to come and pick him up after him and Corey had a big fight and were threatening to break each others neck.  Corey apparently pulled a knife on him too when I was in the shower. Read the rest of this entry »