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We are getting quite desperate lately as Corey’s behavior is just getting so out of control.  He is quite regularly banging his head against the wall or grabbing an object and hitting himself in the head with it.

He actually did it at school today in the school counsellor’s office which I don’t know the full story of yet as I just received a phone call asking me to drop in and see them tomorrow morning.  Apparently it was over him not doing homework and as a consequence he has to do it during lunch time which I don’t think he was too happy about.

Then to top things off today he got in a fight at school at lunch time and has a detention tomorrow.  Surprisingly he is actually in a reasonable mood tonight so far which I wasn’t expecting given his bad day at school.

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I don’t know what to write today, I just feel so tired and sad and that I’m just lost.

Corey’s anger is getting so bad that it is almost constant all day long, almost every time you talk to him he will have an outburst.  It is getting ridiculous.  He spends so much time pulling his hair, punching himself in the head, banging his head against things and punching and kicking doors and walls.

He had an outburst the other day over something so silly that my other son and myself just stood there with our jaws dropped as we couldn’t believe the way he was acting (it was a really strange outburst) and the fact that he was acting this way over nothing.

I just don’t have the patience for him anymore and I know that doesn’t help matters.  But i’m just so tired of having to fight with him over everything.  Last night I asked the boys to do their homework and he just starts yelling, then picks up a jigsaw box and threw it across the room (yes all the jigsaw pieces went flying everywhere).  Then he can’t understand why I want him to pick them all up, he basically told me that I was lazy and don’t do anything around the house (this is after I just spent 2 hours doing dishes and cleaning the kitchen and decided not to ask for the kids to help, that I would let them have their free time).  Needless to say, I ended up picking up all the jigsaw pieces after he stormed off to his room screaming and swearing.

I’m just so tired – I’m sorry, I know I’ve already said that, but it’s my main emotion today, if it is an emotion at all.  I get enough sleep at night, but I’m still so tired all day because I’m emotionally exhausted.  I just feel useless, like I can’t help him, I don’t know how to help him.

I have just been so busy lately that I haven’t had much time to write on here so here goes for my weeks wrap up.

Tuesday – this is the day that I had a meeting with the school counsellor, a lady from the education department and Corey’s teacher.  This is also the day that Corey decided to wake up in a foul mood and absolutely refused to go to school.

I’ll talk about the Corey situation first.  I don’t know if he just woke up in a foul mood, whether me having this meeting at school was on his mind (although I hadn’t really mentioned it much) or what the reason was for his behavior, but on Tuesday morning it was terrible.  He was foul right from the moment he got up, then when I was in the shower I heard Lachlan screaming, then Lochie ran through to my room and refused to go out and get ready for school because he was too scared Corey would hurt him.  Apparently the scream was because Corey had hit him across the face.  Read the rest of this entry »

Our neighbours are fairly quiet and generally keep to themselves, except Jeff (let’s just call him Jeff so as not to use real names) who will come over and chat away whenever he is drunk.  Any other time he keeps to himself mostly.

So last night he had a few drinks and was a bit tipsy to say the least, so over he came.  The kids and I were outside playing basketball at the time.  So Jeff comes over and starts talking about Corey.  How Corey obviously has problems and so do I with him.  Then he starts going on about how I need to just stay calm and actually when he is being naughty I should send him over to his house because he is really good with kids and kids just seem to like him for some reason.

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Hug Therapy

When Corey gets into one of his rages I really can’t stand to watch him like that.  Sometimes he just gets so upset that I think he’s going to explode if he doesn’t stop yelling and screaming like that.

For example, last night him and Ben just wouldn’t stop fighting.  My husband just got to the stage that he’d had enough and told them both to go and have a shower and go to bed – it was only around 7pm at the time.  Corey just went crazy and lost it completely, no way was he going to have a shower and go to bed that early.

Of course Corey isn’t going to give in but neither is my husband and my husband completely refused to leave Coreys room until Corey agreed to go and have a shower.  Which of course he wouldn’t and the longer my husband stood there the more Corey would scream.

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Well the kids are all off to school so I have some peace and quiet to come on here and write another post.  If you have read my blog in the past you will know that I’ve had a lot of problems with my middle boy Corey, which was the reason for me starting this blog, I guess just to have somewhere where I can come in and vent my frustrations.

Since starting this blog I have had a number of emails from Mothers with similar issues, with kids that have behavior problems and can’t seem to find a solution to them.  Some with ODD, some with ADHD and some with Aspergers and then some, like Corey, that can’t seem to get a diagnosis.

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Happy New Year and I hope that all my blog readers have a fantastic 2010.

As I woke this morning to the start of a new year I woke to the familiar sound of my children fighting.  Who needs an alarm when you have children!

So the first day of our new year is no different than any other day, the day was still full off teasing, fighting and swearing.  Thankfully, we had a good night last night bringing in the new year and so I at least was in a good mood and could tolerate it to a reasonable extent.

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We need to take some sort of action but I just don’t know what.  When we have already tried 2 psychologists and 1 psychiatrist, where do we go next.

Yesterday was a really bad day.  After school, Ben and a couple of friends were giving Corey a hard time and they all argued and stuff until Corey had enough and couldn’t control himself any longer.  He just completely lost control and started going after one of Bens friends.

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