My Beautiful Boy

I’ve read many times about not making threats unless you are prepared to carry through with them and while I usually intend to follow through with my threats I often give in.  Sometimes it is just easier at the time to give in and sometimes I just feel guilty - depending on what it is.

A couple of nights ago though I actually stuck to it and gave Corey a punishment that I felt guilty about.  My oldest son Ben wanted to go and see the movie New Moon.  At first I was going to take all the kids to see it but as we are watching the budget at the moment I was a little hesitant to take the younger too since they aren’t really as interested in the Twilight movies as Ben is.

I was tossing up all afternoon whether to take the younger 2 with us or not and Corey wanted to go (more for the sake of going out and to the movies rather than to see that actual movie).

The decision came when Corey had an argument with his Dad, I actually don’t even know what the argument was about, but when I heard Corey stomp in the door and swearing like a trooper then I made up my mind.  I told him he wasn’t going to the movies because with his behaviour he just didn’t deserve to be taken to the movies.

He wasn’t very happy and just kept insisting that he is going and that’s that.  But my decision was made, there was no considering changing it once I heard his foul language.  Although his language is always bad, I just thought that perhaps leaving him home might get him thinking - when he realises that I will follow through with it.

So Ben and I went and saw New Moon (that’s the second time I’ve seen it) and had a great time and loved the movie.  Corey was still upset when we got home because he had wanted to come.

It isn’t easy but often we take him out and as soon as he gets home he is really bad and nasty again, so it makes me feel like he really doesn’t deserve to be taken out.  So this time he got left behind.  I don’t know if it will do any good, his behavior certainly hasn’t improved since then, but perhaps if I keep up with doing things like that then maybe it might have a positive effect in the long term.

If anyone has used this approach and had success I would love to hear from you.

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Take care
Sheryl
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