My Beautiful Boy

I have found with Corey, and this is apparently one of the traits of Aspergers, and that is that he can never admit that he is wrong.  I know, I know, it’s a man/boy thing in general, but it is even more so in Aspergers kids as they genuinely don’t think that they have done anything wrong.

Last night for example, I asked the boys to do their homework, it’s almost the end of the year so I’ve been a bit lenient with their homework and last night I told them all they have to do is read for a while.  So Ben and Lachlan go off and do their homework and Corey has to have a bit of a yell and punch things first, then he finally settles down to read.

After about 10 minutes of reading he asks if he can stop now.  I tell him 5 more minutes, at which he yells and screams and carrys on for a while.  So then his Dad told him he now has another 10 minutes because of the way he acted.

Anyway, he completely ignores Dads statement but settles back down to read some more and after the 5 minutes is up he asks if he can stop again.  Dad says “no, you had 10 minutes because of your behavior”.

Now the real yelling and screaming starts and the extent that Corey screams is unbelievable, I’m surprised he doesn’t burst a blood vessel somewhere he screams so hard.  A bit of punching the walls and slamming doors is next followed by some more screaming and swearing.

At this point Dad has had enough and sends Corey to bed.  There is a lot more screaming, punching etc, but when he finally settles down he calls out for me.

When I went through to his room he asks why he is the one that is always sent to bed early.  I tell him it is because of the way he acted and that he had 10 minutes to read and he should have just done it.

Now Corey did not believe that he had that extra 10 minutes.  In fact, Corey completely denies that he carried on and yelled right back when I first told him to read for 5 minutes.

Is this because they genuinely can’t see that they have done anything wrong, or has he just completely forgotten his reaction and all his yelling and screaming.  Surely he can’t honestly think that he didn’t do it.  But it doesn’t matter how much I try to tell him that he did behave that way and that is why he is now being punished, he just doesn’t believe he did it or doesn’t believe that he did anything wrong.

I know this is a trait that can’t be helped but oh my goodness it is so frustrating.

Thanks for reading
Sheryl
www.my-beautiful-boy.com

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