Not Going To School – This Is So Frustrating
April 3rd, 2008 | 
Author: Once again Corey is not at school today.
Oh man, this is getting so tiring. Where’s that magic want when you need it????
A couple of days ago Corey got a detention which was as a result of two kids picking on him and then kicking him and when he told them over and over to stop and they didn’t, eventually he got up and punched them both. I must admit I have always told my kids to stand up for themselves. However, as a result it was Corey that ended up with a detention and it was the Indonesian teacher who gave it to him. Today they were having a big Indonesian feast for middle and upper primary and after all the struggles of trying to get him to go to school, later in the morning I finally got it out of him that was why he didn’t want to go because he doesn’t like the Indonesian teacher anymore and didn’t want to have to see her.
I know he’s feeling bad but let’s face it if someone was punching him I’m sure he’d want her to give them a detention. I know he was acting in self defense but I guess she is the teacher and it is her job to sort it out. Anyway, he has to face her at some stage and putting it off is just going to make him even more anxious next time he had Indonesian class.
Just when I had that glimmer of hope and thought we were getting somewhere it all falls back down again. I’m doing this reward chart thing with them and he had done quite good for a couple of days and then last night he was behaving quite badly so he didn’t move up the rewards chart. Oh man, all hell broke loose then when he didn’t get to move up it. I couldn’t give in to him though or that would defeat the whole purpose of the chart, it is just so hard. It’s like whatever we do we just cannot win, we are in a no win situation. There goes my glimmer of hope.
I don’t like to get him too upset either as I can see how anxious he is getting and I think last night he was close to panic attack stage, he was terrible. Having been through panic attacks and anxiety disorder myself I can see by looking at him how he is feeling and it really worries me.
Oh well, we just have to keep on going I guess and deal with each day as it comes.
That’s my rant for today, thanks for visiting.
Sheryl
PS Read our article on ODD here
Posted in Sheryl | 
Tags: anxiety, anxiety disorder, aspergers, aspergers syndrome, ODD, oppositional defiance disorder, oppositional defiant disorder, panic attack
HI,
I just have logged onto this blog for the first time. I just finished reading your blogs and I have to say the one where the 2 boys were picking on your son and kicking him; yes he had ever right for self defense. I do not beleive that he should have detention for defending himself. he may feel as if he did something wrong. So if in your heart that your child has been done wrong; you need to take a stand. I am not trying to preach or saying that you are a bad parent. I have a 8 year old son who is ADHD w/ ODD & a daughter who is 7 who is ODD w/ conduct disorder. With administrators knowing of what problems students have sometimes they become a target. My question to you is did the other 2 boys receive a punishment for strating the fight?
Thanks Carrie
Actually I did speak to the deputy principal about this matter along with matters that the psychiatrist wanted me to put in place. However, I really didn’t get much help from them.
There are many special needs children at the boys school and many of them will get away with a lot because of their needs. However, as Corey hasn’t been officially ‘diagnosed’ with Aspergers it’s like they are just not interested. Without an official diagnosis they don’t get funding so they don’t want to put in the effort I don’t think.