My Beautiful Boy

This morning Corey and I had our first visit with the CAMHS therapist Julie.  CAMHS stands for Child & Adolescent Mental Health Service and Julie is a School Support Therapist.

I wasn’t sure how this visit was going to go but I am really happy now after the visit, it went really well.  Julie was really good with Corey and he did open up a bit and talk to her.  Being our first visit we went in together but in the future she will want sessions with just Corey, maybe some with just me and some with both of us.

Corey seemed to relate to her quite well which is a huge thing when it comes to therapists because if he takes a disliking to them he will just refuse to speak to them EVER.  But he seemed to like her so that is off to a good start.

She started by doing our family tree with him and then once she had the family tree drawn up she asked him who the people were that he had the closest relationships with and then the not quite as close but still good relationships with.  Then she moved on to who were the people that he had conflicts with.  She marked these things on the family tree in different colours.

It was interesting to see that I was the person that he said he had the closest relationship with but I was also the person that he has a lot of conflict with.  I knew that already but it’s just interesting to see that come out in a session like that.

He was late to school because our session was at 9:00am but his teacher knew he would be late so that was ok and he actually went into school without any issues.  Mind you today is the last day of swimming lessons so he wouldn’t have missed school and missed swimming, especially since they get to swing on the tarzan rope today.

The school had their assembly meeting this morning which they have every second Friday so we got there just in time for that starting so I stayed for the assembly.  I’m glad I did because Corey received a Principals Award for ‘fantastic work in all areas of maths’ and he was really quite proud of himself standing up the front with his award.  Ben also received a Principals Award today for ‘improved effort and attitude towards his learning’ which is great to see too.

So we’re having a happy day so far today, everything has been good, although I’m a bit concerned about tonight.  Corey wanted to have his friend sleep over last weekend and we said no due to his behaviour not being good enough.  Last time he had this friend over for a sleep over they ended up having a huge fight and I had to call his Mum to come and pick him up.

So last weekend we said no but we told him that if his behaviour was good this week that he could have a sleep over this weekend.  He has been trying really hard this week and although he’s had some bad moments, generally it’s been a pretty good week, so we told him that he could have his sleep over tonight.

So we contacted his friends Mum and asked if Dylan could sleep over and she said yes.  However, when we got to school this morning she was having trouble with Dylan and he refused to get out the car and go to school (she has a lot of issues with Dylan too).  So because Dylan didn’t go to school then he probably wont be sleeping over tonight, which Corey isn’t too happy about.  I do feel really bad for him because he’s tried so hard to be good this week to have this sleep over, but unfortunately there isn’t much I can do about it.  And I completely understand my friend saying no if Dylan is misbehaving so there is no blame there I completely understand her decision, it’s just unfortunate.

Anyway, fingers crossed he wont be too upset.  I told him he could invite another friend over after school if one of them would like to come over.  So we’ll have to wait and see what happens.  He has football training tonight at least so that should take his mind off things for a little while.