My Beautiful Boy

So what do you do when he loses it in the supermarket??

Yesterday I had both Ben and Corey home from school – Ben has had a sore throat for a couple of days and Corey had a ‘headache’.  Although he really didn’t seem that bad, I think it was ‘headache Wednesday’.  Yesterday was my grocery shopping day so I had to take them with me.

We started off alright and then when we were about three quarters through it started.  They started fighting, Ben said something that made Corey mad and then all hell broke loose.  Corey used that lovely ‘F’ word by telling Ben to ‘F’ off, nice and loud, right when an elderly lady walked past us. Read the rest of this entry »

It all started over a pair of socks this morning.  I was getting the boys clothes ready for school and had everything except for their socks.  So I was looking through the clean washing basket for socks and the first pair I found were Bens.

That was it!

Corey immediately went on a rampage that I always get socks for Ben and Lachlan but never for him, he always has to find his own.

Hang on a minute……  I haven’t finished getting the socks yet, this is just the first pair I found and they just happened to be Bens.  I haven’t found any for Lachlan yet either, but could I explain that to him???

Oh, he was just so angry because I had socks for Ben and not for him. Read the rest of this entry »

School started back today and I’m enjoying the peace and quiet.  Although, I must admit I kind of miss them when they aren’t here.

The first week of school holidays was great, Coreys behavior for that first week was so good, but by the second week it all started going down hill.  I don’t know if it was because after that first week they started to get bored, or whether it was because he had a few late nights and was just over tired.  Whatever the reason, the behavior wasn’t good and I was really looking forward to school going back in today. Read the rest of this entry »

Sometimes I just feel like a really bad Mother and others times I just think that he’s a really bad kid – perhaps it’s a bit of both.  It’s school holidays here at the moment (back to school next week thank goodness) and it’s really bad.  The first week of holidays were great, all the boys were really well behaved, but this week – AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!

I’ve been trying to work out if it is because it is the second week and they are getting bored, or if it’s something Corey has eaten, or if it’s because he is just tired.  They have had a few late nights and I do know Corey does tend to get worse when he’s tired. Read the rest of this entry »

By Colleen Henderson

By using restorative practices with your child, you will find yourself MANAGING the behavior, rather than DEALING with it.

Most children do not respond well to yelling or shouting. In fact, it can often escalate the situation, making the child (and yourself!) even more angry and frustrated. Restorative practices is a method used around the world with children of all ages and all different levels of behavior problems. Read the rest of this entry »

By Mark Huttenlocker

Asperger syndrome (AS), also referred to as Asperger’s, is a developmental disorder characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills. The exact cause of Asperger’s is unknown and the prevalence is not firmly established, due partly to the use of differing sets of diagnostic criteria.

Asperger’s is often not identified in early childhood, and many individuals do not receive diagnosis until after puberty or when they are adults.

Teens with Asperger’s are usually aware of their differences and recognize when they need support from family. There are instances where teens do not know they have Asperger’s personalities until they are having difficulties with relationships in adult life. Read the rest of this entry »

I am really losing it with Corey this week, I am just not coping with him at all. The language is really getting to me, I wont even repeat what he called me yesterday.  The thing is that he has called his brother this awful word a few times but it wasn’t until he called me it that it really upset me and I realised just how much it must upset his brothers too when he says it to them.

His anger is just getting out of control, but I just don’t know what to do.  Sometimes I manage to stay calm and talk him around and other times I just lose it with him.  Having it happen constantly just really gets to you and it is so hard to stay calm all the time.  There is absolutely nothing that we can ask or tell Corey to do without him getting angry about it. Read the rest of this entry »

I’m just feeling so down at the moment as I’m starting to feel like everyone hates us.  I think all my friends and their kids have just about had enough of Corey’s behavior.  I want to make excuses for him and tell them that it’s not his fault and he can’t help the way he behaves, but then I try to think about how I’d feel in their position, I probably wouldn’t like his behavior either.

I have one friend who has 3 kids the same age as my 3 and they are all quite good friends.  Her oldest is having a birthday in a couple of weeks and she keeps going on about how her son doesn’t really want to invite Ben because Ben doesn’t get on well with Corey.  That really annoyed me, they are supposed to be friends and she is supposed to be my friend and yet she thinks it’s quite funny that her son doesn’t want to invite Ben.  The fact that Ben doesn’t get on well with Corey has got nothing to do with their friendship or his birthday party. Read the rest of this entry »