My Beautiful Boy

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It makes me sad to look at my son and see that he is just such an angry and unhappy boy.  Why did he ever become so unhappy?

Yesterday the kids had their school concert, which was in the morning at their school.  The night before Corey was getting really worried about it and told me that he really didn’t want to do it.  He didn’t have any ’solo’ part in the concert, just his whole class going up on stage to sing.  He didn’t want to go on stage in front of all the school and all the parents that would be there.

I remember that feeling, he is so much like me when I was a child.  The difference though is that I just accepted my fate and did it, I didn’t feel like I had any other choice than to do it even though I was terrified. Read the rest of this entry »

I have found with Corey, and this is apparently one of the traits of Aspergers, and that is that he can never admit that he is wrong.  I know, I know, it’s a man/boy thing in general, but it is even more so in Aspergers kids as they genuinely don’t think that they have done anything wrong.

Last night for example, I asked the boys to do their homework, it’s almost the end of the year so I’ve been a bit lenient with their homework and last night I told them all they have to do is read for a while.  So Ben and Lachlan go off and do their homework and Corey has to have a bit of a yell and punch things first, then he finally settles down to read. Read the rest of this entry »

I’ve read many times about not making threats unless you are prepared to carry through with them and while I usually intend to follow through with my threats I often give in.  Sometimes it is just easier at the time to give in and sometimes I just feel guilty – depending on what it is.

A couple of nights ago though I actually stuck to it and gave Corey a punishment that I felt guilty about.  My oldest son Ben wanted to go and see the movie New Moon.  At first I was going to take all the kids to see it but as we are watching the budget at the moment I was a little hesitant to take the younger too since they aren’t really as interested in the Twilight movies as Ben is. Read the rest of this entry »

A few months back we found a great psychologist and one that Corey actually related to (the others we’d seen he wouldn’t even speak to them).  However, due to the very large cost of the appointments we just couldn’t afford to keep going to see her.  I hate that we had to stop going there due to finances, but what can you do???

A couple of months ago I was speaking with the counselor at Coreys school and she said that she could arrange a meeting with someone from the Education Department and evaluate our situation and see if they can get us the help we need through the school system – which would be free.  She said they can even get a full assessment and diagnosis for him through the system.

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So what do you do when he loses it in the supermarket??

Yesterday I had both Ben and Corey home from school – Ben has had a sore throat for a couple of days and Corey had a ‘headache’.  Although he really didn’t seem that bad, I think it was ‘headache Wednesday’.  Yesterday was my grocery shopping day so I had to take them with me.

We started off alright and then when we were about three quarters through it started.  They started fighting, Ben said something that made Corey mad and then all hell broke loose.  Corey used that lovely ‘F’ word by telling Ben to ‘F’ off, nice and loud, right when an elderly lady walked past us. Read the rest of this entry »

By Colleen Henderson

By using restorative practices with your child, you will find yourself MANAGING the behavior, rather than DEALING with it.

Most children do not respond well to yelling or shouting. In fact, it can often escalate the situation, making the child (and yourself!) even more angry and frustrated. Restorative practices is a method used around the world with children of all ages and all different levels of behavior problems. Read the rest of this entry »

The school holidays are over and today was the first day back at school and just as I predicted Corey refused to go to school.  I’m sure the number of days he’s missed this year must be getting close for the school to put a report in to the education department.  I’m not sure of how many days you can be absent for before that happens.

We have a new symptom or habit now that Corey has just started over the last week.  Now he wont go to sleep at night and cries because he is scared.  He has never been scared in his room at night before.  He use to share a room with Lachlan and then we moved them all into their own rooms which he was really happy with and liked having his own room.  However, Lachlan wasn’t very happy and was scared in his own room and wanted to go back to sharing with Corey.  That is the weird bit, when Corey was with Lachlan before he was fine, when he was on his own he was fine, now he’s sharing again he’s scared.  The last few nights I’ve had to lie down next to him until he has fallen asleep.  Read the rest of this entry »

We’ve just had four days off over easter and today Derek has gone back to work but the boys are still home as they have a ‘pupil free’ day at school.

Corey has been not too bad this weekend although he had a few moments yesterday where he threw tantrums and told me that I’m a jerk and a loser.  I just tried to stay calm and ignored it and stuck to my discipline and didn’t give in to him.  I must admit his tantrums weren’t quite as bad as usual. 

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