My Beautiful Boy

Last time I mentioned Mindsoothe Jr I hadn’t really seen any improvements and it was still a bit early to know if it was helping at all.  Then after Corey was taking Mindsoothe Jr for about three weeks I started to wonder if it was helping.  We were still having a lot of problems with him, there was no doubt about that, but I felt that he just wasn’t quite as aggressive as usual.

So there wasn’t a huge change, but it just seemed to take the edge of his anger, but because there wasn’t a huge change I just wasn’t sure if it was helping or not.

Then, I did my usual and started getting a bit slack with giving it to him and although he was pretty good and would often ask me if he should take it, he soon started forgetting also and before we knew it he was no longer taking it.

Now, a couple of weeks on and he hasn’t taken the mindsoothe jr for a couple of weeks I am noticing changes.  It is now that he’s stopped taking it that I know for sure that it was helping, that it was definitely taking the edge of his anger.  Now that he’s stopped taking it he is really bad again and quite aggressive and there is just no getting through to him.

So although the changes while he was taking mindsoothe weren’t huge, there were definite changes for the better and for a child that is as angry and can get as aggressive as Corey does, then even that small change does help.  Who knows, perhaps if he had kept taking it for longer it might have helped even more.

So we have put him back on the medication and I really need to put in a big effort myself to make sure he takes it every day.

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The other thing we have done recently is put in some behaviour and consequence rules.  I have done this since reading the Out of Control Teen ebook.  I still haven’t watched all the videos as yet but have just started to implement some rules since reading the book.

One thing the book talks about is confirming what most books say – that when you have a consequence for a behaviour you need to enforce that consequence 100% of the time and also not to make threats that you know you wont follow through on.  So that is what I am doing at the moment.

We sat down and had a family meeting which went for about 1.5 hours and we discussed behaviours and consequences.  There were 4 main behaviour areas that I wanted to make consequences for and these were – physical violence, teasing and annoying, bad language, and being disrespectful.

So we let the kids have some input and discussed possible consequences for each behaviour and we came up with some that we all agreed with (although Corey wasn’t too happy as he knew that he would be the one getting the consequences the most).

Once we had all agreed on consequences, we made it clear that these were going to be enforced every time.  So the next day I typed it all up and did a chart with each behaviour and it’s consequences.  Physical violence for example just had one consequence as it went straight to loss of privileges.  Some of the other behaviours were given warning, and other lesser consequences before leading to loss of privileges.  So now it is all typed up and hanging up on the wall and the kids also have a copy each.

Corey is currently on loss of privileges and has had a couple of other consequences given since we put this in place.  The other two boys have been fairly good so far.

So that is still relatively new so I will update and let you know how it all goes.